Woman in a ‘polyfamily’ says her kids are less likely to judge others

A pansexual woman has opened up about what life is like as part of a polyamorous relationship as she takes part in a reality TV show.

TLC’s Polyfamily documents the lives of Taya and her husband of six years, Sean, and their relationship with Alyssia and her husband of 11 years, Tyler. Alyssia is also Sean’s girlfriend and Taya is Tyler’s girlfriend.

It’s considered a closed quad relationship as they are only polyamorous within this group. However, Taya is the only one to identify as pansexual, the others all identify as straight.

On TikTok, Taya has discussed how watching Shameless, which included a throuple, encouraged her and Sean to think about opening their relationship up.

“That started a conversation about us exploring outside of our relationship physically. In order for me to explore my sexuality a little bit more and for us to just be able to connect and go out and have fun together.”

Taya and Sean then met Alysia and Typer on a dating app and they’ve been living together for five years now.

@pinknews Meet ‘Polyfamily’, TLC’s latest show that follows two polyamorous couples who have formed a ‘closed quad’ relationship together, all while raising their five kids. Taya is pansexual but only has a romantic relationship in the quad with both men, Tyler and Sean. Everyone else in the quad identifies as straight – and the couples switch rooms every night. But, how did their poly quad relationship start? Taya says a TV show about a throuple – that’s a three person relationship – was where it all began for her and her husband Sean. They met Alysia and Tyler on a dating app and have since been living together for five years. Tyler and Alysia brought their two kids into the relationship and the quad have since added three kids to their household. But, there’s one part of their relationship that’s left a mystery… “Since the guys switch rooms every night, we don’t know who the fathers of the younger boys are.” But navigating parenting and the uncertainty of who the father of the younger children are seems to occasionally cause issues for Sean and Tyler. They document their life as a polyfamily on TikTok as well and often show their relationship dynamic and their kids. With the show exploring the highs and lows of this poly quad, we can expect more drama to come. #lgbtqia #pansexual #polyamorus #polyfamily #tlc #taya #Adoteumhabitinho ♬ vlog, chill out, calm daily life(1370843) – SUNNY HOOD STUDIO

Taya has reflected on how the quad relationship started, saying that it was initially “extremely problematic,” but that “we’ve learned so much.”

She also said as a group they had “so many conversations that started one way and ended another. And there are so many conversations that are so far from what our reality is now.” She concludes: “It just felt right.”

Together they have five children – two are Alysia and Tyler’s from before they formed the quad relationship. Alysia has given birth to a child since forming the quad, while Taya has had two.

In regard to the three younger children, it is unknown who the father is as the adults swap rooms every night. The group has also avoided taking a paternity test in the hopes of avoiding jealousy and remaining equal parents.

However, in the first season of Polyfamily it’s clear that this mystery has far from avoided problems as Sean and Tyler argue about parenting styles in one scene.

Meanwhile, Alysia struggles with the relationship dynamics and is emotional as she sees Tyler having, in her eyes, a stronger relationship with Taya.

More problems appear to have been caused by Taya wanting to open the relationship up, admitting “I feel I have a connection with someone else,” indicating it’s a woman.

Online Taya and the group regularly face questions about the dynamics of the group when it comes to the children. In response to one person asking if their children see the situation as “normal” Taya said, “No, actually they don’t.”

She went on: “They understand that polyamory isn’t the norm,” and that “teaching them that other relationship structures, sexualities, and identities exist does make it so that they are far less likely to judge anybody.”