Trans and non-binary people reveal what they want to say to cis people

Young non-binary person calls for cis people to stand up for trans rights

“What do u want to say to cis people?” begins a Twitter thread encouraging trans and non-binary people to vent their frustrations and offer advice on how cis people can be better allies.

The thread, which has been liked more than 3,500 times, has hundreds of responses from trans and non-binary people sharing their thoughts.

Along with the more common demands of things cis allies should be doing – like stating their pronouns in email signatures and on meeting new people – the replies also show how often trans and non-binary people aren’t listened to and how frustrating that is.

“It’s exhausting to have to rely on allies because cis people won’t take it seriously or believe what’s being said if it comes from a trans person,” said one Twitter user. “To be told that we’re ‘too close to the ‘issue’ to be able to rationally talk about the difficulties we face is beyond patronising.”

The user added in a second tweet: “It basically means any relationship between trans and cis people can never be truly level or reciprocal. Because as it stands, cis people always hold all the keys.”

Many people asked cis allies to be supportive when it comes to trans and non-binary people being misgendered.

“Often times it is 100 times safer for a cis ally to do the correcting than a trans person, even in online spaces,” one person said.

For many, US journalist Katelyn Burns nailed it when she simply replied: “Powerful people have a vested interest in telling our narrative for us in a way that will make you hate us.”

Her comments points to the fact that the level of institutional transphobia in almost all spheres of life is likely to be incomprehensible to a cisgender person, but it will still affect the way they see trans people.

A frustration with cis gatekeeping of trans healthcare also came through in the replies.


Cis people also popped up on the thread to offer support.

And plenty of trans and non-binary people thanked the original poster, a cis lesbian, too.

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