Gay men over 30 give advice to their younger self – and it’s so heartwarming
Gay men have been giving advice to their younger selves (Getty Images, stock)
Gay men over the age of 30 have been giving advice to their younger self in a surprisingly heartwarming Reddit thread.
On r/AskGaybrowsOver30, one Redditor shared his own message to his 22-year-old self before inviting other users to do the same.
He explained: “A lot of the things I once placed enormous value on – sexual freedom, hookups, FWBs, always having another guy available – just don’t mean very much to be anymore. Looking back, some of it honestly makes me cringe a little.”
The user said younger gay men “should experience things and figure out what they like”, but explained he recalled a feeling of “emptiness” during that period of his life.
He added: “I’d tell my younger self that being gay can become something much bigger than sex. You can actually build a life that makes all of that chasing feel pretty insignificant in retrospect.”
Other responses flooded in, with some more light-hearted like stop eating so many takeaways, or stop spending so much money. But among them were some seriously heart-warming pieces of advice, that anyone of any age could take on board.
‘Be kinder to yourself’
One person, sharing their own self-advice, said: “Don’t base your self worth on being young and cute. Youth is fleeting.”
Another said: “You’ll find love when you’re ready. Don’t try to make that one guy work. It’s okay to let a hot guy ho.”
Someone else said: “You are gay. It will be okay. You can still live the life you want. You just have to do them in order.”
Another commented: “Be braver. Be kinder to yourself. Be kinder to others. Surround yourself with loving, like-minded friends. It gets better, not easier. Don’t miss your chances to find love.”
One user said: “Put you first. No one else is going to do the things you’re expecting from life for you.”
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