How to be confident and body positive in the bedroom

Ruby Rare, a sex educator, monogamist and self-described “happy naked lady”,

PinkNews spoke to Ruby Rare, a sex educator, non-monogamist and self-described “happy naked lady,” about body positivity and how she tackles insecurities within the bedroom.

Despite growing up in a body positive family, Rare battled with her body during her teenage years.

“I definitely spent a few years disliking my body and really struggling with it,” she told PinkNews.

“Porn gets spoken about a lot and while it does affect people’s body image, I would argue that other aspects of the media like celebrity culture tend to impact our self-esteem just as much or even more than porn.”

“We consume it from a much younger age and it’s more hidden and subtle.”

Rare stressed how this is not an issue unique to women.

“All genders are stereotyped and put in certain boxes of how they’re meant to look, so it’s really important for us to not just think of this as a female issue,” she said.

Life drawing helped Ruby Rare

A turning point for Rare was her discovery of life drawing.

“It’s really changed the way that I see my body in relation to other people and other people’s art and I’ve found it to be a beautiful experience of loving and accepting my body for the beautiful thing that it is,” she said.

She is now one half of the Body Love Sketch Club, a life drawing class centred around body positivity.

The classes encourage attendees to look at bodies in new ways, in response to the idealised and sexualised depictions of bodies within the media.

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