Gay athlete reveals his surprise when confronted by three football players about his sexuality
The world of sport often has a reputation, sometimes rightly-earned, for being homophobic.
There are no out gay or bisexual Premier League footballers, and homophobic chants from the terraces are still a problem.
Even in other sports, it can be difficult for people to come out as gay or bi.
Triple jump and long jump athlete Jace Anderson was just coming to terms with his own sexuality and telling those around him about his identity and feelings, when he faced a confrontation.
It wasnāt members of the University of Nebraska track team who came up to him, but three members of the college American Football team.
āIād just started coming out, Iād come out to a few of my best friends a little bit before thatā¦ at the time I hadnāt really come out to too many people, ā he explains in a video about coming out as a gay athlete.
When he was first confronted by one of the girls on campus who asked if he was gay, Jace initially denied it, and she then told him that some of the girls on the track team had placed bets on his sexuality and whether they could āturnā him.
āI was just denying it ā hardcore denying it,ā Jace said.
āThat was the first time I threw myself back into the closet, not that I was already out or anything. But outside the track, outside that entire environment I had made really good relationships with my closest friends, being gay and being comfortable with my friends.ā
Jace revealed that his confidence in his own identity had been crushed by the experience.
Then, when Jace was at a party with people he was comfortable with, and comfortable being himself with, he faced another confrontation.
āIn walk these three gigantic ā these literally gigantic human beings,ā he said.
āTheyāre all football players, all linemen, seriously, anywhere from 6ā5ā³ to 6ā8ā³ 250llb plusā¦ they were just really big, massive human beings.ā
Jace recognised the football players from around campus and they recognised him.
āOut of nowhere, one of them goes, āHey man, it was brought up in conversation that you swung for the other teamā,ā he said.
āI didnāt really know what to say. I couldnāt really deny it at this point, because my friends at the party already knew, and he literally just confronted me about it.
āI didnāt really know how to respond to that, so I just said, āYeahā.ā
Jace continued: āHe said, āHey, we just want to let you know we think thatās awesome and commend you for not denying it or anything like thatā.
Jace was so dazed by the unexpected interaction, and the footballer added: āYou donāt really hear about that many openly gay athletes here and we think thatās awesome.
āThey each gave me a hug since they could still tell I was very uncomfortable about the whole thing and I was obviously nervous and that probably they knew caught me off guardā
He added: āThat whole interaction just blows my mind to this day.
āThey were the last people I thought would have confronted me on that and been so welcoming. Theyāre honestly just cool people.ā