Lesbian couple’s baby murdered by birth father

Illustrated rainbow pride flag on a pink background.

A lesbian coupleā€™s adopted baby boy has been taken back by his biological parents and murdered by the father.

For 78 days, Rachel and Heidi McFarland had a baby.

Five weeks later, he was dead.

Gabriel (Facebook Heidi McFarland)
Gabriel (Facebook Heidi McFarland)

Transgender Brazilian Roberta GĆ³es Luiz and her lesbian partner also had their adopted baby taken away, by a government official who said that ā€œgay couples are abnormal.ā€

And last year in the UK, transgender youth charity Mermaids reported that a seven-year-old trans girl had been removed from her motherā€™s care because she was raising her as female.

They described the move as a ā€œhuge injustice and transphobic practice,ā€ and described the ordeal as ā€œdevastating for the childā€.

Rachel and Heidi, who live in Iowa, adopted Gabriel with the understanding that his 16-year-old mother Markeya Atkins had signed over custody.

Heidi McFarland with Gabriel (Facebook/Heidi McFarland)
Heidi McFarland with Gabriel (Facebook/Heidi McFarland)

But Markeya, a co-worker of Rachelā€™s, changed her mind ā€“ and there was nothing to stop her.

After the couple had coached her through labour and taken care of baby Gabriel for two-and-a-half months, she asked to have him back.


Their lawyer Jason Rieper told the couple that Gabrielā€™s parents had signed release-of-custody forms ā€“ but they hadnā€™t.

Because of this, Markeya was able to take the baby away from Rachel and Heidi.

Rachel and Heidi McFarland facebook
Rachel and Heidi with one of their daughters (Facebook)

Rachel recalled the pain of having to return Gabriel to Markeya, saying: ā€œShe wants him back and you have to give him back.

ā€œIt was horrible. There are no words.ā€

ā€˜Itā€™s like heā€™s been taken away from you again,ā€™ Rachel told the Des Moines Register newspaper.

ā€˜We brought him home from the hospital. I cut his umbilical cord.ā€™

ā€˜It just felt natural. When he was with us it just felt right. Like we were always meant to be moms,ā€™ Rachel she told WHOTV.com.

Rachel and Heidi McFarland's adopted daughters (Facebook Heidi McFarland)
Rachel and Heidi McFarlandā€™s daughters (Facebook/Heidi McFarland)

Just over a month later, the childā€™s father shook the baby to death.

17-year-old Drew James Weehler-Smith was convicted of second-degree murder and jailed for 50 years after confessing to causing Gabrielā€™s death.

Rachel and Heidi have now sued Rieper for malpractice and been awarded compensation of $3.25 million.

Rachel told People magazine: ā€œThe release-of-custody never got signed by either birth parent.

ā€œObviously our child and us werenā€™t a priority to [Mr Rieper].

Rachel and Heidi McFarland facebook
(Facebook)

ā€œWe are just happy he was found negligent,ā€ she added.

ā€œThat was what our goal was. We will not see any money from this.ā€

Rachel, who has since adopted two daughters with Heidi, explained: ā€œAdoption wasnā€™t ever our number one choice, but because it was private it seemed tailor-made for us and we thought this could be our chance to become parents.

ā€œThe birth mum didnā€™t care if we were a same-sex couple.

ā€œIt just seemed too good to be true ā€“ and it was too good to be true.ā€

David Brown, who was representing Rieper, said he would look to challenge the decision made at the Iowa District Court for Polk County.

Drew James Weehler-Smith who tv
Drew James Weehler-Smith (WHO TV)

ā€œYou canā€™t control the emotion of a birth mum, and you canā€™t control the emotions of a 16-year-old birth mum,ā€ Brown said.

ā€œAt the end, the kid wasnā€™t going to [sign the papers] and the suggestion that Jason was to force her to do it, would be unethical for him.ā€

However, Roxanne Conlin, who represented Rachel and Heidi, said Rieper ā€œjust didnā€™t get around toā€ getting the documents signed.

Markeya and Gabriel (Facebook)
Markeya and Gabriel (Facebook)

ā€œIf the lawyer had done what he was supposed to do, the birth mother would have signed a document called a release of custody and four days after she signed it, it would have been almost impossible for her or the babyā€™s father to take Gabriel away from them,ā€ she wrote on Facebook.

ā€œThe lawyer just didnā€™t get around to it,ā€ she added.

ā€œThe birth mom got mad at the McFarlands and ripped this baby away from the only parents and the only home he had known.ā€