Gay millennials love monogamy, say researchers

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A study looking into trends in monogamy has found that a significant amount of millennial gay couples are more inclined to want to be in monogamous relationships.

Conducted by Lanz Lowen and Blake Spears, the pair asked 832 gay male respondents aged 18-39 about their dating habits and what relationships they were seeking.

These researchers, who have been in a non-monogamous relationship for 36 years, and have been a couple for 40, have their own unique spin to bring to the tale.

“We had been in a non-monogamous relationship for 36 years and were curious about the experience of others,” said the researchers in The Couple’s Study.

“There wasn’t any roadmap and we assumed long-term couples might offer valuable perspectives and hard-earned lessons.”

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Out of the survey, 632 identified as monogamous, 152 identified as “monogamish”, and 48 identified as non-monogamous.

And to make the research as fair as possible, the couple tried to level out the number of single participants and the number in a relationship – 42 percent being single, 58 percent being in relationships.

The results showed 89 percent of singles that are 25 and under want to find a monogamous relationship,

93 percent of those aged 26-30 are looking for a monogamous relationship too – and the 31+ category ranked at 92 percent.

It appears that the majority of younger participants appeared to indicate that monogamy was the norm – but there could be room for interpretation here.

As 58 percent of these respondents said that monogamy was equated with marriage, it might be that some debunking around the field of polyamory even in the institution is still possible among consenting partners.

It is the older participants in the survey that said that they would be more open to monogamy.

Either way, it appears that trends in dating and relationship habits move quickly – just two years ago, it looked like polyamory would be the majority stakeholder for good.