Mum’s response to son coming out: ‘You are the boy who forever won my heart, I’ll fight for you always’

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A mother’s response to her bisexual son’s Facebook coming out status has gone viral, as she tells him “You are the bravest person I know. I’ll fight for you always… You are still the boy who forever won my heart”.

Michelle Conway McClain wrote the note to her son Zach, and pinned it on his bedroom door, after she found out he was bisexual via Facebook. She wrote the note because she did not have time to speak to him before she went to work as a healthcare counsellor in Union, Missouri.

In the note, she wrote that it did not matter whether he was bisexual or not, but that he should tidy his room in case insects were attracted to discarded soda cups.


I was surprised by your Facebook post where you came out. I want you to know that I love you unconditionally.

I love you with my actions, not just my words. I’m so proud of you. You are the bravest person I know. I’ll fight for you always. Your sexual orientation does not define you.

You are still the boy who forever won my heart. The only thing that concerns me is the number of empty soda cups and tea bottles in your room. Throw them away before ants come inside.

I love you always – Mom

Conway McClain has since posted a photograph of the note on her Facebook explaining: “I didn’t get to talk to him before I left for work today, so I left this on his bedroom door.” The note has since gone viral.

Comingout letter 2

Commenting on a post by Have a Gay Day’s Facebook page, Conway McClain confirmed the authenticity of the note, and the words contained therein.

“This note is not fake… I wrote it to my son on the morning of 8/30/13 when I read on Facebook before work that he came out as bisexual. And I meant every word. I’m so proud of him!,” she wrote.