Singer Ezra Furman proudly comes out as a trans woman and mother: ‘It’s complex to be any sort of woman’

Ezra Furman comes out: 'I am very proud to be a trans woman'

Singer Ezra Furman has proudly comes out as a trans woman and shared that she has been a mother for the last two years.

The Twelve Nudes singer shared the news in a heartfelt Instagram post on 20 April.

I wanted to share with everyone that I am a trans woman, and also that I am a mom and have been for a while now (like 2+ years),” said Ezra, who also disclosed that her pronouns are she and they.

“About being a trans woman: for my own reasons I have been hesitant to use these words, especially the ‘woman’ word.

“I have often described myself as non-binary, which maybe is still true (I’m just gonna sit with that question for the moment). But I’ve come to terms with the fact that I am a woman, and yes for me it’s complex, but it’s complex to be any sort of woman.

“I am very proud to be a trans woman and to have come to know it and be able to say it. This has not been an easy journey.”

Ezra Furman shared a photo of herself and another of her with a young kid, face blurred out. They said: “About being a mom: there’s enough said in public about the magic of parenthood. It is beautiful and holy and I love it – that’s all on that subject.

“I have not yet mentioned in public that I’m a parent because I have been afraid of being judged and grilled about it as if it’s anyone’s business other than mine and my family’s.

“But. I’m telling you I’m a mom now for a specific reason. Because one problem with being trans is that we have so few visions of what it can look like to have an adult life, to grow up and be happy and not die young.

“When our baby was born I had approximately zero examples that I had seen of trans women raising children. So here’s one for anyone who wants to see one. I’m a trans woman and a mom. This is possible. I never dreamed it was possible to be happy and self-realised and trans and uncloseted, and also become a parent. But it is and I am doing it. Because trans people deserve to pursue the lives we want, on our terms.

“That’s all for now. More music to come before long.”


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Ezra Furman song was ‘the yearning of a trans person wanting to be seen as real’

In Ezra’s song “I Wanna Be Your Girlfriend”, she tells the listener: “All my friends are writing their resumes/My responsible friends are applying for jobs/But me, I was considering ditching Ezra and going by Esme/Baby, would you find that so odd?”

Ezra Furman told PinkNews in January 2020 that they had nothing to hide about who Esme might be, saying: “I’m kind of both woman and man, if you ask me.”

“I’ve wondered for a long time, would I rather be just one? And I think that, no. It’s not really that for me. But I first thought, if I was a woman, what would my name be?”

According to Ezra, “I Wanna Be Your Girlfriend” is a “happy ballad for the queers”.

“I like that kind of song,” she said. “I like the romantic yearning and I wanted to make a queer one.”

“It is the yearning of a trans person wanting to be seen as real.”